Choosing the readings for the wedding ceremony was truly one of the hardest parts of planning our day.
Because let’s face it – the ceremony is the business end of things. It’s the life changing half hour when you go from being (legally) foot loose and fancy free to being one half of a whole. It’s that serious.
And for something so momentous you want to get it right. For those of us who are not poets or even particularly literary then that’s a lot of pressure.
I think it’s especially the case if you have a civil ceremony. Without adding music and readings to give proceedings a softer, personal and more romantic touch it can seem like a quick 15 minutes that’s done before you’ve got into your stride.
Aimless google searches ensue and just turn up a lot of bad rhymes for wife and certainly nothing that remotely captures a lot of what you want to say.
So we wanted to create a bit of a list of reading ideas. These are our first five and over time we hope to build up a bit of a list. Not all will be to your taste but hopefully something in there somewhere will speak to you.
From ‘Captain Corelli’s Mandolin’ – Louis de Bernieres
Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your root was so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.
Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.
Vow – Roger McGough
I vow to honour the commitment made this day
Which, unlike the flowers and the cake,
Will not wither or decay. A promise, not to obey
But to respond joyfully, to forgive and to console,
For once incomplete, we now are whole.
I vow to bear in mind that if, at times
Things seem to go from bad to worse,
They also go from bad to better.
The lost purse is handed in, the letter
Contains wonderful news. Trains run on time,
Hurricanes run out of breath, floods subside,
And toast lands jam-side up.
And with this ring, my final vow:
To recall, whatever the future may bring,
The love I feel for you now.
I’ll be there – David Hasselhoff
Some people stand in that darkness
afraid to step into the light,
Some people need to have somebody
with the edge of surrender insight,
Don’t you worry, it’s going to be alright
because I’m always ready,
I wont let you out of my sight
I’ll be there,
I’ll be ready,
Never your fear,
Now don’t you fear,
I’ll be there,
Forever and always I’m always here!
A Marriage – Mark Twain
A marriage makes of two fractional lives a whole;
It gives two purposeless lives a work,
And doubles the strength of each to perform it.
It gives to two questioning natures a reason for living
And something to live for.
It will give new gladness to the sunshine,
A new fragrance to the flowers, a new beauty to the earth
And a new mystery to life.
On your wedding day – Unknown
Today is a day you will always remember
The greatest in anyone’s life
You’ll start off the day just two people in love
And end it as Husband and Wife
It’s a brand new beginning the start of a journey
With moments to cherish and treasure
And although there’ll be times when you both disagree
These will surely be outweighed by pleasure
You’ll have heard many words of advice in the past
When the secrets of marriage were spoken
But you know that the answers lie hidden inside
Where the bond of true love lies unbroken
So live happy forever as lovers and friends
It’s the dawn of a new life for you
As you stand there together with love in your eyes
From the moment you whisper ‘I do’
And with luck, all your hopes, and your dreams can be real
May success find its way to your hearts
Tomorrow can bring you the greatest of joys
But today is the day it all starts