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Choosing the readings for the wedding ceremony was truly one of the hardest parts of planning our day.

Because let’s face it – the ceremony is the business end of things.  It’s the life changing half hour when you go from being (legally) foot loose and fancy free to being one half of a whole.  It’s that serious.Reading

And for something so momentous you want to get it right.  For those of us who are not poets or even particularly literary then that’s a lot of pressure.

I think it’s especially the case if you have a civil ceremony.  Without adding music and readings to give proceedings a softer, personal and more romantic touch it can seem like a quick 15 minutes that’s done before you’ve got into your stride.

Aimless google searches ensue and just turn up a lot of bad rhymes for wife and certainly nothing that remotely captures a lot of what you want to say.

So we wanted to create a bit of a list of reading ideas.  These are our first five and over time we hope to build up a bit of a list.  Not all will be to your taste but hopefully something in there somewhere will speak to you.


From ‘Captain Corelli’s Mandolin’ – Louis de Bernieres
Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your root was so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.


Vow – Roger McGough

I vow to honour the commitment made this day
Which, unlike the flowers and the cake,
Will not wither or decay. A promise, not to obey
But to respond joyfully, to forgive and to console,
For once incomplete, we now are whole.

I vow to bear in mind that if, at times
Things seem to go from bad to worse,
They also go from bad to better.
The lost purse is handed in, the letter
Contains wonderful news. Trains run on time,
Hurricanes run out of breath, floods subside,
And toast lands jam-side up.

And with this ring, my final vow:
To recall, whatever the future may bring,
The love I feel for you now.

I’ll be there – David Hasselhoff 

The Hoff

The Hoff

Some people stand in that darkness
afraid to step into the light,
Some people need to have somebody
with the edge of surrender insight,

Don’t you worry, it’s going to be alright
because I’m always ready,
I wont let you out of my sight

I’ll be there,
I’ll be ready,
Never your fear,
Now don’t you fear,
I’ll be there,
Forever and always I’m always here!

A Marriage – Mark Twain

A marriage makes of two fractional lives a whole;
It gives two purposeless lives a work,
And doubles the strength of each to perform it.
It gives to two questioning natures a reason for living
And something to live for.
It will give new gladness to the sunshine,
A new fragrance to the flowers, a new beauty to the earth
And a new mystery to life.

On your wedding day – Unknown

Today is a day you will always remember
The greatest in anyone’s life
You’ll start off the day just two people in love
And end it as Husband and Wife

It’s a brand new beginning the start of a journey
With moments to cherish and treasure
And although there’ll be times when you both disagree
These will surely be outweighed by pleasure

You’ll have heard many words of advice in the past
When the secrets of marriage were spoken
But you know that the answers lie hidden inside
Where the bond of true love lies unbroken

So live happy forever as lovers and friends
It’s the dawn of a new life for you
As you stand there together with love in your eyes
From the moment you whisper ‘I do’

And with luck, all your hopes, and your dreams can be real
May success find its way to your hearts
Tomorrow can bring you the greatest of joys
But today is the day it all starts

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For The Stag – Destination: Lisbon

Tell us about Lisbon: Portugal’s capital city it’s known for mild winters and hot summers.   It’s brimming with history and its Europe’s second oldest city after Athens (in your face Rome!)
What’s happening: Lisbon is home to two Portuguese Primeira Liga sides, Sporting Lisbon and Benfica.  Providing it’s not a big game tickets are easy to get hold of and for football fans it’s a great experience.  Check the fixture list in advance although specific match timings are sometimes decided only two or three weeks in advance.Take a Segway Tour of the city.  It’s approximately €20 for two hours.  While not all your party may be interested in the historical sites, getting to bomb around cobbled streets on a Segway is cracking fun.
Nights out: The Alcantaro Docks is a swanky district where you can find clubs and bars (Lux is owned by John Malkovich).  However they tend not to like big groups of foreigners and entry can be very expensive.A better bet is heading out to Bairro Alto – an old area of Lisbon full of winding streets and tiny independent bars.   Patrons are encouraged to purchase their drinks and mingle outside in the streets (the bars are too small to drink in).  This means there’s a great atmosphere out on the streets with music and mingling and plenty of great beers.  This is probably the single best reason to go to Lisbon.  The scene is jovial but not in any way laree.
Best bits: Espetada – it’s like a giant kebab suspended on a skewer. Served with rice it’s perfect accompaniment to an evening of cultural boozing.
Sum it up in 3 words: alfresco boozing paradise
And the organisational stuff: Flights go from most UK airports.   Booked well in advance these can be good value with airlines such as Easy Jet flying out of Luton.Transport form the airport to the city is easy and cheap and can be done on the Lisbon Metro in approximately 30 minutes.

Welcome to For The Mister!

This is a special day for us as not only is it the launch of out very splendid male wedding blog but it’s also a whole year since we got married!  Ahhhhhh!

The idea for this blog was born over the following summer while basking in our post wedding glow (and truthfully while we were feasting on gin with Mr & Mrs George).

Planning our wedding had been a labour of love for Tom.  From his spreadsheets to the glorious afternoon of the food tasting.  I’m a bit ashamed to admit it now but I was amazed at not only how involved he was but how much he thrived on so many details of the planning process.  Much more so than I ever did.

But there was so much to learn for us both.  And while I had an abundance of online blogs and glossy magazines to collect ideas and tips, Tom really had nothing similar.

And that’s when it struck me,  Tom can’t be that unusual in this.  Don’t get me wrong, in my eyes the man’s a prince, one in a million, but in terms of weddings there must be other men who are interested and involved, who want some views on what’s better a bow tie or a necktie, how to  fasten a button hole and frankly what the bloody hell is a favour.

And contrary to popular belief I also believe brides want their partners to be involved and make decisions.  Ok we might say no when you suggest naming table after great Charlton Athletic players but we want to share the day together and want you to own it as much as us.

The answer – For The Mister.

The aim – to provide a blog which talks specifically to grooms providing inspiration and ideas, advice and anecdotes.

Done with candour and hopefully humour , over the coming months we want For The Mister to be every grooms best man.  (Too cheesy?!)




Welcome To For The Mister!

This is our exciting new blog featuring everything For The Mister!  We’re under construction at the moment but please come back on 31 March 2014 when we’ll be up and running and totally splendid!


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